Guilt thrives the more we keep it to ourselves. guilt begins deep within us & likes to stay there. The longer we keep it locked up, the more it grows & multiplies. We feel shame when we haven’t done anything wrong.
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A guilt trip is a lonely journey. We rarely take a companion along with us. Those around us may suffer because of our guilt but they aren’t able to ease it. We are unable to share our burden with others so they might carry part of it for us.
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We feel guilty. We think we’ve done something wrong. We try to make it right. When we can’t make it right, we overreact. One of the ways we overreact is to overcompensate. In other words, we try to make things up. We can’t make it right, so we work to make it better. Oh, Boy!
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Let’s review: we say we feel guilty. Our brains process guilt with doing something wrong. If we have done something wrong, then we must work to make it right. Unfortunately, we haven’t REALLY done anything wrong so we find it’s impossible to make things right. Out of frustration, we simply try harder. And that is when we overreact.
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If we think we are guilty, then we believe we have done something wrong. When we do something wrong, we try to make it right. We make a mistake, we correct it. We break something, we replace it. We damage something, we pay to have it repair. These are all very cut & dry, very black & white. Unfortunately, most of the time when we feel guilty, we simply CAN’T make it right.
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I LOVE Law & Order. I watch it on one of the local stations every Wednesday & Thursday. I watch other crime shows as well but Law & Order allows me to see the police do their job & the prosecutors do their job. So I see courtroom action every episode. Most episodes, at some point, a judge asks the defendant, “How do you plead?” And they have to say Guilty or not guilty. Most of the time, they say not guilty so the show can continue rather than ending early! 😊
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